Sunday, December 2, 2007

Happy Birthday- Joan Eileen!


Well, 60 years ago today, my mom was born. Which means, 60 years ago today, my Nanny was giving birth to her. Time is simply an amazing thing, that is hard to understand and grasp. For example, when you are waiting for results from the doctor, or waiting for a big event, it seems as though time somehow stands still. Or, on a day, when being a mom is the most trying task, ever- bedtime, just never seems to come. Then, on the other hand, it was 60 YEARS ago, when God blessed this earth, with my mom. My mom is by nature a care giver. Who could ask anything more of a mom. I was so well taken care of, and loved, and nurtured. I almost enjoyed being sick, because she made everything from the chicken noodle soup, crackers and 7-up, to the comfy bed with the TV in my room, too hard not to enjoy. I would have to imagine, that these very characteristics made it very hard to watch my sister and I grow up, and move out, and eventually get married, and be moms to our own kids. How do you just stop taking care of someone? The older my girls get, the more I understand it. I can see Madi, and how she pushes us away, and wants to be seen as so independent. Yet, no one enjoys a kiss and hug, and being a taken care of as she does. I don't claim to have this mother-daughter thing figured out. It's a complex relationship. But I do want to say to my mom, thank you for loving me, and sacrificing so much for me. I am sorry the appreciation never comes in the moment, but rather as I grow up, I get a clearer understanding of all that you did and continue to do. My girls love their Noni so much. They also love to give her a run for her money! We all wish we lived closer to her and my dad, Papa Scott. Aside from taking such great care of her family, my mom also takes care of terminally ill patients, working for hospice. Every family who has my mom as their loved ones care giver, never want anyone else. She takes care of their medical needs, but even more importantly, she does special things, like...polish their nails, brush their hair, give them a massage, anything to help them feel beautiful and special and keep their dignity. I admire that so much. I was so sad to not be a part of her special birthday bash, put on by my sister. It looked like loads of fun, and I missed not seeing all of our family. Love ya mom- Just going to finish with some fun pictures of Noni, and her sisters, kids, and grandkids!!

8 comments:

Shannon said...

Seriously....Am I even supposed to TRY and top that? I'll just go with

Ditto!
Love ya Mom!

Shannon said...

By the way...you blog header looks fine to me. I don't know what you are talking about.

Unknown said...

Happy belated birthday Joanie!!!It is true,you are a caergiver by nature.I remember when I had my new twin babies Joan and Kim came over to visit.While Kim sat on the couch watching the view,relaxing while her best friend was all swollen and busted up Ms Joan tucked me in bed,put my feet up,and ordered me pizza!When I woke up Kim was still watching t.v whle Joan was cleaning out my fridg.What a wonderful woman that Joan is!As for Kim I'm hoping she at least checked on me between commercials..Ha Ha!!!

Anonymous said...

First off~ Joan, Happy Belated Birthday--still as beautiful as ever!!! You & Scott have raised two wonderful girls--so sweet and kind hearted-both of them! I enjoy looking at the pictures of your family and all the fun stuff you all do!!!
ps. Miss you Kim!
Love,
Teri

Dena said...

OK Joan, first off Happy Belated Birthday to you. Second, I am getting ready to have baby #2...so when are you going to be down to take care of me? I love Kimmy but it sounds like you may be a better choice for this pampering thing. My mom and sister will be on weekly shifts so we'll get it all worked out with you in the mix too. I hope you had a great day.

Jen said...

Joan,

So sorry this has taken so long to get to. HAPPY BIRHTDAY!!!!!!! I myself have been super busy being the caretaker of my husband, I don't know how you've done it all these years, any advice? You are a wonderful lady, miss you!!!! Love, Jen

Anonymous said...

LET ME JUST SAY IT WAS VERY EASY BEING A MOM TO THE BEST DAUGHTERS EVER, TRULY GOD BLESSED ME AND HE CONTINUES TO DO SO AS I WATCH MY GIRLS BECOME INCREDIBLE WOMEN. I COULD GO ON BUT I DON'T KNOW HOW TO TYPE. I WOULD LIKE TO SAY EIGHT,MY BIRTHDAY PARTY WAS MORE THAN AMAZING. A WEEK THAT I WILL ALWAYS REMEMBER.MY SISTER PATTY AND HER FAMILY FROM ATLANTA CAME FOR THANKSGIVING AND IT WAS SO MUCH FUN. I FELL IN LOVE WITH MY BROTHER IN LAW BILL AS I HAVE NOT SPENT THAT AMOUNT OF TIME WITH HIM BEFORE.HE IS SO DARN FUNNY. AND THEN MY LITTLE THIRTEEN YEAR OLD NIECE AS SHE STANDS FIVE EIGHT . I DO HAVE TO SAY MY SIS IS AS WONDERFULLY BLESSED WITH HER THREE DAUGHTERS AS I.EM ALI AND CAROLINE. THANK YOU ALI AND CAROLINE FOR ALLLLLL YOUR HELP AT MY PARTY. ONE THE BLOG I JUST READ THAT YOU DID WAS AS SPECIAL TO ME AS IF YOU WERE AT MY PARTY. THANK YOU FOR THE KIND THOUGHTS FROM YOUR HEART ONE.AND TO TERI LAURIE DENA AND EIGHT THANK YOU FOR THE NICE BIRTHDAY WISHES. I MISS ALL YOU GIRLS I'M SO HAPPY KIM HAS SUCH NICE AND CARING FRIENDS IT'S A COMFORT TO ME BEING SO FAR AWAY. SO MAY GOD CONTINUE TO BLESS ALL OF YOU. MERRY CHRISTMAS. LOVE JOAN EILEEN. OH ONE MORE THING,THIS TOOK ME ONE HOUR TO TYPE.

Anonymous said...

JEN THANK YOU FOR THE B DAY WISH TOO. WHAT IS GOING ON WITH HUBBY MAYBE I SHOULD READ YOUR BLOG AND I COULD KEEP UP ON THINGS. ANYWAY DON'T BABY HIM JEN, DON'T BABY HIM. CUZ HE WILL NEVER BE THE SAME. CHAT WITH YOU SOON.