Tuesday, October 21, 2008

Tough Decisions


Madi has been on the "Lil Rebels" softball team for a long time. We made the decision as a family that it was time for her to maybe go in a different direction. As of last night she has quit the team. I know that she is going through a lot. Some of her teammates are saying to her that she is being selfish, and only thinking about herself. I know this makes her sad, because that was not her intentions. There were some miscommunications between us and the coach. I get so tired of the "drama" that is involved with softball. It's been going on since before I played, and I am sure it will continue to go on. Bottom line, she is a great player, and I don't want anyone to take her love for the game away. If anyone has some supportive comments for her, I am sure she would appreciate them.

5 comments:

Dena said...

Madison everyone is going to think they know what is right for you and you may second guess decisions you make, but god has a path for you and you may not ssee it until you are at the end looking back down it.

I played for an 18 and under coach that everyone used to call horrible names because he would yell and people would say how can you play for him...why did you chose them over the panthers...and all i told them is that I saw through the yelling for what he was saying and he was the right coach for me...I also had back to back national championships from it (So here is me sticking my tounge out at them ((just kidding on that part)) That team including the coaches and the parents of the girls were like family for me. It fit and you and your parents will help you find your fit.

In the meantime I'll make you some super cute bows ;-) while you come babysit my kids.

Laurie said...

Madi fadi, you will be just fine. Your teamates are just trying to say there going to miss you. Your a special girl with a very bright future. You need a triple mocha shake, works everytime. Love ya

Scott said...

Madi, I agree with all that Dena said. I also want you to know how much Noni and I enjoy watching you play softball. Once you get on a new team we will get to see you play again. Your mom played on several teams and as she said there was always some kind of drama. It seems unfortunate that you had to come to this decision but in the end the actions of the coach left you and your parents no choice. I really respect you for standing up for yourself and realizing that there are some things that you aren't going to tolerate even when it involves giving up something that you really love. Also, thanks for talking to your parents and letting them help you. Hopefully your friends on the team will understand and still be your friends. If not well you will be learning one of those hard lessons that life hands out. You will survive. Try not to focus on what you lost but look forward to what you will be gaining. Remember God promised you that He wouldn't give you more than you can handle so I know that you can handle this. Regardless of what anyone says to you try to take the high road and not be bitter or angry, that just gives them ammunition to throw back at you. God says to turn the other cheek, tell them your sorry that they feel that way and move on. When others see that you are choosing to be positive and not complaining they will have no choice but to respect you. The best way to prove who you are is to continue to play and bat at the high level that you always have. One of the things that I love about the way you play softball is that you put your heart and soul into it and give such great effort. That type of player and person will always be in high demand and that is why you will end up on another good team. As Dena said the team for you will be like family and that will include the coaches. Noni and I love you very much and we are sending you lots of hugs and kisses. Love Papa Scott

Anonymous said...

MADI RAE, YOU ARE JUST THIRTEEN YEARS OLD AND I HAVE BEEN TO WATCH YOU PLAY IN 2 COUNT THEM 2 NATIONAL TOURNAMENTS ALREADY, I THINK THAT SPEAKS FOR ITS SELF.THE FIRST YOU WERE NAMED BY YOUR COACH DEFENSIVE PLAYER OF THE TOURNAMENT. THE FIRST AND SECOND YOU SMACKED THE DICKENS OUT OF THE BALL AND SCORED MANY RBIS AND PASSED HOME PLATE SEVERAL TIMES YOURSELF. MADI YOU HAVE PROVEN YOU CAN PLAY WITH THE BEST OF THEM AND WHAT IS THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IS YOU ARE A TEAM PLAYER, GREAT CHEERLEADER WHEN YOU ARE ON THE BENCH AND YOU LOVE THE GAME. YOUR MOM TOLD ME YOUR REASON FOR LEAVING THE TEAM I ALSO FEEL THE RIGHT DECISION WAS MADE BY YOU AND YOUR PARENTS. TAKE A BREAK HONEY, PLAY SOME BASKETBALL BE FRIENDLY, STAY POSITIVE EVEN WHEN OTHERS AREN'T USE THIS EXTRA TIME TO STUDY HARD SO WHEN YOU GET TO HIGH SCHOOL YOUR GRADES WILL BE GREAT AND YOU CAN PLAY FOR YOUR SCHOOL WITH PRIDE.I LOVE YOU MADI I WILL PRAY FOR YOU AND YOUR OLD TEAM. A MILLION HUGS, LOVE, NONI

Shannon said...

Madi,
I know it will be hard to leave because teams are like families. But trust that God is always in control and that He will meet your needs. He will provide you with a new team family!

Your mom and dad are really smart about these things so trust them too. They only want what is best for you! I think it's great that you made the decision as a family. It's no fun being on a team where the coach is not right for you. I did it for years! Although I loved the girls, the coach really did steal a lot of my joy away from the game. I love you and I will keep this in my prayers!